Sunday, January 16, 2011

Happiness and Five Aspects of your personality!

What makes you happy?

That will always remain a million dollar eternal question.

Is it only money and success that makes one happy?  But if that would have been the case , we would be having all the rich businessmen and celeberaties or if we come a bit down, the Investment Bankers or MBA in the job world must be ever smiling happiest person around.
But that's not the case. The richest man I know of personally doesnt look happy. Though he is around 45 and quite a successful businessman, but the number of diseases he is suffering from and the amount of stress his daily life has is surmounting. I m sure that so many of my friends who are not even earning one twentieth of what he is earning are much more happy and good to be with. But that also doesn't mean that money or success is useless. I m able to write and talk all this stuff only because I m earning money so that I can affford a computer and internet. I m just trying to find out the de facto reasons which makes human life fun.  So Money or success are important but definitely it is not the only factor which makes human life awesome.

The next thing which people mostly think brings a lot of happiness in life is spending time with friends or relationships or having an boyfriend or girlfriend. I still remember the amount of pressure people(including me) used to feel just to be important in the company of friends and also to have a BF/GF. Many People feel insecure or something missing in their life if they dont have a BF or GF or if they are made fun of or are left out in their friend circle. I agree having friends or relationships is really important. That do bring a lot of sweetness in life. But why being insecure just because you dont have any or just because your friends disagree with you for any reason. The same friends or relationships whose only purpose is to bring fun and happiness to human life can add loads of misery too if you tend to compromise a lot or if you are not open to accept other people as they are.

I m not saying that the above factors do not contribute to happiness in life. Nor am I saying that all the human beings are living a miserable life. I m just trying to find out the de facto reasons which can bring loads of happiness and fun to human life. Which if present prevents sadness to enter a human life and even if misery comes the person can come out of it easily and continue adding more and more fun to his life. So, lets look at it:

There are five aspects of human personality and if all the five aspects get proper nourishing everyday, not only the man is happy and fulfilled, he achieves health, peace of mind, material and spiritual success and awesome relationships.What are these five aspects? They are:

1) Physical
2) Emotional
3) Intellectual/Creative
4) Financial
5) Spiritual (Not to be confused with religious or something to do with god.)

I ll be looking into each of the aspects in my coming blogs. What are these aspects all about and what does their proper nourishing mean? And How can a man achieve the utmost important life balance?

Friday, November 19, 2010

Three Emotions which drive your life and work.


What makes you work?

What is one thing that drives you to the most important thing?

Something which you have to do everyday.

No, I m not talking about eating, sleeping, FBing(I thought of putting Face Book in the third place; only the first two are more important as I look at many people's lives all around(me not excluded) :P ) bathing, TV , friends, family etc......

I m talking about WORK!



There are three emotions which drive people to work :
1) Greed (Read: Carrot)
2) Fear (Read: Stick)
3)Love (Read: Joy )

Greed: Greed is wanting more and more in life.It can be anything, money, importance, status, power. You want more of whatever you have.

When I was in Class 11, I was told that study now and get into IITs; life will be fun. I managed to get into IIT . Then it was that study for four years well so that you get a good job/MBA and then life will be fun, I managed to get a decent job. And then work hard so as to get a promotion, earn more money, respect or do an MBA, CFA or startup so that you get some other "carrot" which will then make your life fun.

What you are always looking at is "whats the next thing?" which causes inside of you an insecurity as if there is something special out here in life which you "lack". It can be
anything; different for different people. It can be money or GF or a particular car, but yeah it do drive you to work. You work so as to get "the" next thing to ultimately reach somewhere not defined which you yourself dont know of! One of my friend puts it very nicely:

"These workoholics have turned the whole world into a madhouse. Everyone is mad with running and reaching somewhere. And no man knows where this ”somewhere” is "





Fear is the other extreme: Doing something as if you will lose something , if you don't. You may loose a job, status, reputation, how will your children go to school? how will you eat, sleep and do all the other important things in your life!

Some of it I can understand you really need to think about but many people loathe their work and continue to do it because of the fears..What they never understand is that we are not living in a stone age; you ll be able to meet your basic needs much much easily in any job you do out here!!



The plus points : Definitely these two emotions can get you a lot of money, power , fame, ability to poke in other people's life.

And yeah You at least work. You are much much better than others who don't do any work or infact there are many who are wasting their life in addiction, crime and drugs. I can guarantee you if the two emotions had not been there, around 80% of the people around would have turned into hippies enjoying life doing nothing but partying partying partying!!!


The minus ones: What you loose is priceless! Atleast around one third of your life you will be doing work And if these two emotions drive you a lot, you are not enjoying your work and hence you are not enjoying your life fully.And you are too concerned about something, either the "next big thing" or "saving your ass". You are definitely not playing around with things, because greed does not let you have the freedom to loose and fear is even worse, you always cling on to the security. You either do not take risks at all or take a lot of risks.Work becomes a compulsion.There is stress in life and many a times LIFE SUCKS!!!





Lets move to one of my favorite emotions and in fact the above emotions are also the distorted form of this one:


LOVE: This is mind blowing..this is fantabulous.... This emotion can not be explained in words......This emotion can only be experienced.

You may have experienced it: Like when you take cold water baths. Like when you go and wander at your favorite places all alone (Have you ever tried this?). Like when you look at a baby smiling. Like when you help others for nothing in return. Like when your mother cooks that special favorite dish on your birthday. Like after you open your eyes after meditation(I don't know whether you have ever tried out this one also)

"You want the moment to stay till infinity."

I can only give you events which may bring this utmost beautiful emotion in you. I can never explain it.

Now imagine you working with this emotion blossomed inside of you (not to get this emotion(thats greed) not because you may loose it(thats fear) ).

Just being in this space of love and working because there is nothing to loose(no fears) and nothing to gain also(no greeds). You are having fun while working. I wont call it "work " then in the first place. Its pure unadulterated total fun.You will play around with things, and do everything with "nothing serious out here" attitude. But it doesn't mean you are not working. You are working sincerely but with no concern, as if its a game. You are not at all concerned about results or whether you may commit some mistake. You are totally immersed in it. How time flies is not known at all.

The plus/minus points: These anyways wont matter to you. If they start to matter love is gone.

Its your life and you are the best judge: I leave on to you which emotion should drive your life and work.


Lastly, I would like to add some famous quotations on WORK:

" I never did a work's day in my life. It was all fun" -Thomas Alva Edison

"A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play; his labor and his leisure; his mind and his body; his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing, and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself, he always appears to be doing both." - L. P. Jacks

"Work makes (one) free". - Lorenz Diefenbach

Jai Ho

Love
Gaurav Ahuja











Monday, November 15, 2010

Why a new blog?



Hi Virtualpals!

Every time I read a new book(generally non fiction), the first page on the book is the Preface or the reason the author is writing that book. SO I thought of why not a preface for my blog ;)

Ok, So here goes the preface :)

I am writing this blog because of many many reasons. Few of them are:

1) Obviously because I want to share wat's happening in my life

2) Bcoz I love people and love making new new friends everyday..:) So, obviously if you like the way I think or write, sooner or later you will start reading my blog and I yours and in this way I get to make new new like minded friends everyday.Anyways even if you don't like what I read or write, or even if we are not like minded people which rulebook says that we cant be good friends.Keep commenting and writing to me!

3) Bcoz I need an outflow of whats going in my mind ; I love free expression and believe in the philosphy of Live and let live!

4) Another thing which I love to do is to learn new new things everyday. And obviously by sharing my experiences and learning about your experiences from your comments and blogs; I ll definitely get to learn a lot of things.

5) Last but not the least; I want to improve my English and writing skills.

Quite a few so as to start the blog!

Keep coming..:)

Jai Ho!

Love
Gaurav

Maiden blog..!!


Hi Junta Janardan!

This is my first attempt in the blogging world!

Keep coming and bookmark
this!;)

Hope you enjoy it..:)

Jai Ho!
Gaurav